7 Reasons Why It’s So Important to Love Yourself

Loving yourself and narcissism or selfishness are absolutely different things. Love is all about giving and receiving and if you can give enough care, attention and sympathy to yourself, most probably you can give it to others as well. You must have heard the old truth that we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves. Love flourishes when we give it to other people, but love always starts with ‘me’. We are the only ones responsible for our life, choices and deeds so we just have no right to be neglectful of ourselves. However, I’ve never thought about why it’s so important to love yourself even though I completely agree with the statement. The reasons stated below show that loving yourself is really essential.

1. When you love who you are, you accept who you are

Indeed, I know perfectly well all my positive and negative sides and I accept them. It doesn’t mean I’m satisfied with all my traits. Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you should stop improving yourself. It just helps you realize that you are the only one, with your unique traits, qualities and potentialities. It gives a great sense of confidence. When you accept who you are, you feel no need to counterfeit someone or compare yourself to others. And this is the most powerful and inspiring feeling ever.

2. It gives you confidence and approval

We all love confident and charismatic people. This is our inner subconscious desire and you cannot do anything with it. Compassion is also important but when people need to talk to someone, they usually address a strong confident person. People who love themselves are more likely to get a better job, promotion and more friends and admirers. I think it’s a crucial reason to love yourself.

3. You will avoid self-reproach

Self-reproach, sorrow and sense of shame are the worst things a person can experience. Loving yourself means being less anxious and depressed and also less inclined to stresses and self-torture. A friend of mine was always dissatisfied with her weight, even though she was really a beautiful girl. She stuck to numerous diets and lost so much weight that she was forced to see the doctor. It’s a terrible yet common situation that shows lack of love to yourself.

4. When you love yourself, you look better

It’s really simple. You can concentrate on your strong points instead of bothering about your weaknesses and imperfections. Everybody has imperfections but most people don’t care about them. For example, I’m short and will never change it. Moreover, I hate high heels, can you imagine it? I’ve been obsessed with this problem for years and I couldn’t see that I have a nice body, beautiful eyes and kind heart. But when I accepted that imperfection about myself I became even more beautiful.

5. If you love yourself, you are more likely to have a better family life

When you love yourself, you know what you deserve. In this sense I’d like to follow my mom’s example. My parents still have a very tender and warm relationship, even though they’ve been married for more than 25 years. I’ve never noticed the slightest sign of contempt or lack of respect between them. I know perfectly well that my mom wouldn’t stand such a treatment. When you love yourself you will never be ill-treated. And this is very important for a healthy family life.

6. …and happier children

Children always try to copy their parents’ behavior, manners, views and literally everything. The ability to love is one of the crucial things your kids should adopt. But it will be impossible if the parent can’t display this ability. When you love yourself, you set a healthy and vital example for your kids. The researches have proved that a child’s success and happiness are largely determined by the experience he received in his childhood. That’s why if you want to teach your kids to love themselves, you should learn to love yourself first.

7. When you love yourself, the world around you changes

When we fall in love everything around us becomes more beautiful and appealing. Falling in love with yourself is no exception. It enables you to look at things, people and life from another perspective, better perspective. But the most important thing is that all these changes are about your perception only. Thus you can choose whether you love yourself and this world or not.

Self-love can make you a better person. It improves your physical, psychological and emotional state. Give it a try and you’ll see that you attract more good people and circumstances into your life. Do you agree with my list of reasons why it’s so important to love yourself? Share your thoughts, please.

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Comedian, Simcard Set to Release ‘This Is Lagos’

Simcard

Simcard has undoubtedly shaken the comedy industry since his arrival on the scene a few months ago cracking ribs. He has now decided to release a new audio comedy titled, “This Is Lagos” which is a project that talks about Lagos in general ranging from life on the Mainland and on the Island”. It also focuses on  false life, traffic, accommodation and day to day problems faced by its inhabitants. This audio comedy which is his 5th, promises to be something out of the usual as the uniqueness of this Law graduate is portrayed in the quality of delivery and humour.So far, he has released four different audio comedy marketed by Obaino and all did so well in pushing his career forward.

With this new project, Simcard is expected to formally usher himself into the Lagos comedy big league.

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BAYELSA STATE GOVERNMENT DEBUNKS MEDIA REPORTS ON COST OF GOVERNOR’S OFFICE

Bayelsa State Government debunks media reports by a national newspaper (ThisDay) for the erroneous reporting that a new Governor’s and Deputy Governor’s office will gulp N33.8Billion as against N 3.8 billion as disclosed by the Commissioner for Works & Infrastructure Mr. Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo during a routine inspection of projects executed by Governor Seriake Dickson.

The public should discountenance the Newspaper Report which was done in error. The cost of the big ticket project is N3.8billion and not N33.8 billion.

Daniel Iworiso- Markson
Chief Press Secretary to the Governor of Bayelsa State
10/10/2014

PDP governors kick against stoppage of endorsement by the NWC

The governors elected on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party(PDP) yesterday kicked against the stoppage of consensus endorsement of their candidature and others in their states for the 2015 poll by the National Working Committee(NWC) of the party.
The aggrieved governors alleged that the NWC had acted in concert with the presidency to halt the endorsement gale.

They also accused the presidency and the NWC of “double standards” when the leader of the party, President Goodluck Jonathan had benefited from the same consensus endorsement.

Some of the governors also said they might ask the National Convention of the party to revisit the endorsement of Jonathan by the National Executive Committee(NEC).

The National Secretary of the party, Prof. Wale Oladipo, had on Thursday voided the endorsement of governorship, senatorial and other candidates by the governors and state chapters.

The party directed the governors and state chairmen of PDP to cancel such endorsements.

With the annulment of the endorsements, some of those affected are: the President of the Senate; Chief David Mark, who is seeking the fifth term in the Senate; the Senate Leader, Victor Ndoma-Egba(SAN); outgoing governors already anointed for the Senate, including Godswill Akpabio ( Akwa Ibom); Gabriel Suswam(Benue); Emmanuel Uduaghan(Delta); Saidu Dakingari(Kebbi); Theodore Orji ( Abia); Sullivan Chime( Enugu); Ibrahim Shema(Katsina); Babangida Aliyu(Niger); and Isa Yuguda(Bauchi) Others are: second-term- seeking governors like Ramalan Yero( Kaduna); the Acting Governor of Taraba State, Garba Umar; Ibrahim Dankwambo(Gombe); Henry Seriake-Dickson (Bayelsa), among others.

Those whose governorship endorsements have been voided are Emmanuel Ugwuanyi(Enugu); the Minister of Health, Prof. Onyebuchi Chukwu(Ebonyi); ex-Minister of State for Health, Dr. Ali Pate( Bauchi).
Investigation by our correspondent revealed that the governors were shocked that the PDP NWC could give such a directive after it had lured them to endorse Jonathan’s automatic second-term ticket.
One of the governors, who was devastated by the directive,

said: “We have discussed among ourselves, such a cancellation of endorsements by the NWC is unacceptable to us.

“Whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander. If the NWC means business, the ban on endorsements should be across the board.
“We cannot be used and dumped by anybody or group. Why are they changing the game now?”

Another governor said: “Such a ban will spell doom for the party. The National Headquarters should not dabble in what is happening at the state. Are they just realising that endorsement is not good for our democracy?
“Look, endorsement or consensus-building is part of the game too.”

A third governor said: “The party should let us subject all nomination process to state congresses and National Convention. The party should leave the presidential nomination open and the President should seek second term mandate at the National Convention.

“Since the beginning of the week, we had suspected foul play when they directed all aspirants to come to Abuja to collect nomination form for any elective office.

“In any case, I am not bothered because the National Secretary , who issued the directive, was not elected by the National Convention of the party. The directive was a product of illegality, it cannot stand.”
It was gathered that some governors were being appeased by party leaders as at the time of going to the press.

“Nobody us targeted but we do not want endorsement abused in such a way that it will erode democratic process.
We will iron our issues on this,” a top party leader added.

Culled from: The nation